26 June, 2009

A Relationship

Relationship..... it means different things to different people. Some love to know that they are in a relationship with someone, others feel caged in a relationship, then there are those who see no point in having a relationship...there are singles out there wondering what it would be like to be in a relationship...and those who are in a relationship who want to get out of it....and others who love being in a relationship...

The grass always seems greener on the other side. How do you know what’s right for you? Do you go with the flow of things, do you plan your steps forward or do you just sit confused as hell? There are times when you long to be in a relationship but know deep inside that you are not prepared for it... it can tear an individual’s peace of mind to pieces... and then if you are in a relationship..You wonder where it’s going to take you and you wonder if you are doing anything wrong.... I feel that people get possessive in relationships when they fear that the relationship may fail... they want to hold onto the person they love not realising that their possessiveness could be the doom of the relationship...

There is no right time for a relationship... because at any given time, you will have a hundred different issues in your life... you will have to deal with all these factors simultaneously... the strength of your relationship is based on how you manage your time and focus on your relationship keeping in mind other factors affecting your life...

That way, you do need a certain level of maturity to deal with a relationship but then it’s a very individual decision at the end of the day... are you up to taking up a relationship? If you are not and your partner understands...then I should say...you’ve got a great partner!

If you are in a relationship then either you are extremely happy or a bit doubtful... the doubtful situation is really tricky... You are unable to decide if you want to go forward, halt or take a step back... confusion re-eigns!

If you are single... you’ve got the best deal... do what you want... wander wherever you want to... explore the several avenues open to you... till then you can decide if you are ready for a relationship...
There is so much more to all this... there are so many different opinions on this subject...

Follow your heart... you may have to meander your way but well, eventually you will end up somewhere... get there, decide if you are comfortable and flow with the feelings of your heart. There are various destinations... visit them and enjoy!

“Someday we'll know

If love can move a mountain...
Someday we'll know
Why the sky is blue...
Someday we'll know
Why I wasn't meant for you...

Someday we'll know
Why Samson loved Delilah...
One day I'll go
Dancing on the moon...
Someday you'll know
That I was the one for you...”

- Mandy Moore & Jonathan Foreman [A Walk to Remember]

10 June, 2009

The Individual

Everyone needs someone in their life. At any given stage of life, people need the security of having someone next to them. Most individuals deep in their hearts like to have someone to lean on. No one can stay alone for long except if they are stranded all alone in a deserted spot. Even then they will make a friend out of anything that comes their way be it living or non-living.

Of course, most people now-a-days with their busy schedules and professional commitments would say that they love their independence, but at the end of the day, they need someone who will listen to them, who would be there for them so that they can ease the tiredness and stress of the individual.

It just feels extremely good to come home after a hard day at work to someone who greets you warmly, who keeps your dinner ready and who listens to your day’s events without interrupting except for maybe sympathising with you about a particular topic... you feel secure in the knowledge that there is someone who is just there – there for you - to love you, to listen to you and to understand you. When there is someone for you, it evokes in you an ecstatic feeling that transports you to a heavenly level which makes you want to hold onto it for infinity.

Once you know that there is someone for you in this world and in your life... you in a vague way feel complete. The emptiness in your life seems to dissolve and meaning seems to bloom in your life. The satisfaction that brims up in your heart makes you feel so very special. It’s lovely to feel that you are someone in someone’s life.

There are instances when you feel that you are better off alone...and there are times when your heart tugs to have a companion... When there is someone just for you ... the heart warming feeling you experience cannot be explained by mere words on this page here... the feeling transcends all languages except perhaps, the language of the heart !

03 June, 2009

DISCONNECTED

There are times when you sit vacantly gazing at the dusty ceiling... your mind is blank and you are unaware of your surroundings. The mind and heart seem so disconnected. Your mind tells you one thing and your heart narrates to you another thing. You try to grasp at some meaning or decision but you fail to because you are uncertain about listening to your mind more than your heart.

Why does it happen sometimes, that you have no idea why you feel a certain emotion? You are just clueless about the tears that cascade down your cheeks...the tears splash on your hands and you look at them wondering why they have been let out from the deep recesses. Those tears seem to come straight from the heart though you know for a fact that they come from your eyes... It seems like there is some connection.

Even so, your mind refuses you to acknowledge the circumstances at times. The mind can turn an angelic being into the cruelest monster by playing mind games and by tricking the heart into believing in false ideas. Where do you go from there? The heart seems so fragile and delicate... you want to protect it from harm... but what if your mind is the destroyer of your heart and you do not realize it?

You seem to drift away from yourself... Your mind is its own and your heart yearns for security. You try to create a balance; you have to trudge up the brittle slope to bridge the yawning gap between your heart and mind.

The journey seems tedious, you hurt yourself a million times in the process, the wounds seem to be deep and yet you push on... you ascend to that altitude and you see that all you have to do is – Believe in Yourself.

The connection between heart and mind has always been there. If you want to be aware of the connections’ existence just Believe in Yourself.